Following up on my Summer reading list:

Popular: Finding Happiness and Success in a World That Cares Too Much About the Wrong Kinds of Relationships. — by Mitch Prinstein

I sought this book out on the recommendation of my college coach. He is having his freshmen read and discuss this preseason. I inadvertently keep calling the book “Likeable” when I’m talking to people about it because it really does sell you on the power of being likeable.

The first part of the book sets up the problem: When we were children we understood that likeability was the most important factor in our social standing, but when we got to adolescents we shifted our attention to status. Today’s world of social media has only exacerbated this problem. Some of us have gotten stuck in the same patterns we established in high school. Status often drives the focus of our actions despite the fact that we know likeability has a stronger correlation to our success, our happiness and our health.

In the second half of the book Prinstein explains how we can make ourselves more likeable and therefore improve  the quality of our lives. I thought the second half was useful as heck and would be valuable for many people I have known.

You don’t need to be imprisoned by the status you achieved in high school or college. You can free yourself by changing your actions.

Endure: Mind, Body and the Curiously Elastic Limits of Human Performance— by Alex Hutchison

This book is a wonderful explanation of what defines our limits and how to move past those limits.  Well written and steeped in science, the book shows that so many of the body’s limits are actually the brain’s limits. For instance, it’s amazing how much self talk influences your bodies ability and each of our willingness to endure. The book includes quite a bit of research and engaging anecdotes, but Hutchison does not oversell his findings.

Mindset –by Carol Dweck

Make sure to read the updated version in which she explains the concept of “false growth mindset.” Although “fixed” and “growth” mindset have been mined for awhile now, this update to include the concept is important. It instructs us that we don’t want to make the mistake of entirely uncoupling effort from results. We are still in the growth business. It is not simply all about your effort.

“A growth mindset isn’t just about effort. Perhaps the most common
misconception is simply equating the growth mindset with effort.
Certainly, effort is key for students’ achievement, but it’s not the
only thing. Students need to try new strategies and seek input from
others when they’re stuck. They need this repertoire of approaches—not
just sheer effort—to learn and improve.” 

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The Captain Class:A New Theory of Leadership by Sam Walker

Don’t underestimate how important your team’s leader is to their success. Culturally we emphasize the importance of coaches to the success of any team, but the reality may be different. At the minimum elevate how important it is to select, create and mentor leadership at the team level.

“It’s the notion that the most crucial ingredient in a team that achieves and sustains historic greatness is the character of the player who leads it.”

Getting the right player in that role is the heart of the matter.

Astroball: The New Way to Win It All

OK, this wasn’t on my July reading list, but once I heard about it I immediately sought it out. I’m about a third of the way in and am really enjoying it. It touches on so many important points about executing a turn around. You got to have a plan.

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